I asked a friend recently about her life and how things were going. She said, “Aw, okay. I guess.”
Knowing that her response was not typical, I inquired further.
“Just okay?” I asked.
“Yeah, doing some soul surfing, so to speak.”
“Are you catching any breaks in the waves?” I responded.
She winked at me and courageously said, “No, just seems like I keep crashing with every wave.”
When I asked her what she meant, she shared that she has been thinking about her tumultuous and abusive childhood and how much she would change, if she could turn back the hands of time.
“There are just so many things that I would do different, if I could go back,” she sighed.
“Well, since you can’t go backwards, can I ask you a question?” I carefully asked for permission to coach her a little through this next wave. No one likes to see someone they care about keep crashing on the shore of life.
“Sure, why not,” was her reply followed by a sheepish grin as a tear rolled down her rosy pink cheek. She knew what was coming next.
“Since you can’t go back in time, and you only have today, what can you change today? Right now. This very minute,” I curiously inquired.
She paused, wiped the tear off her cheek with the back of her hand as the hands of time seem to stand still. Present in this very moment. A dynamic shift had occurred. It only takes a second sometimes for life to change. In the blink of an eye.
She turned towards me, still grinning, and said, “I get it. By looking backwards at things I can’t change, I keep crashing. I stay stuck. If I am willing and courageous enough to stand here in the present with an eye on tomorrow, I can change. One thing, one day at the time.”
Are you crashing on the shore of life? Are you stuck because you continually look backwards at what could have been? Start today. What can you change today?
Today! By seizing the opportunities in life today, there is a supernatural redeeming of the time that was seemingly lost.
My friend has no idea how courageous she is in my book. Her past will never hold her back. She is worthy of all that her future holds. And so are you, my friend.