It’s hard to hate up close

She had always thought of them as a little bit beneath her. She didn’t really hate them, just didn’t like them very much. Tried to stay away from them and avoided relationships with them. She would mumble things under her breath about them, hoping that no one heard her. And as long as she kept her distance, things were okay. She didn’t have to associate with them.

Until her daughter fell in love with one of them.

He thought they were nasty, sub-human. How could they possibly justify what they were doing? They knew what they were doing was wrong. Everybody knew it was wrong. He could never imagine anyone in his family actually choosing that lifestyle. And, he made sure he told them often. It was repugnant, repulsive, and utterly disgusting.

Until his son came out of the closet. 

She could not imagine what they felt like. They looked like fat slobs. They had to be exhausted from carrying around all that extra weight. Weak minded and lazy. All they had to do was eat healthy and work out. Pretty simple, fool-proof plan. She had absolutely no respect for fat people. They could change their lives if they wanted to. She would never get fat. And avoided fat people at all cost.

Until her husband gained 98 pounds in the three years since their wedding day.

Living off the system. Bottom feeders was his nickname for them. All they had to do was get a job and quit having babies. He thought everybody knows how to do that, right? It made him angry. Seething. He put in 60 hours a week for his family and his taxes were providing food stamps for them. Just not right. Completely unfair. He would never, ever use the system like that.

Until he lost his job and had no other way to feed his family.


It’s really, really hard to hate up close. Who do you hate? What barriers need to come down?


“But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.” I Corinthains 13:13


“And He said to him, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’  This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’” Matthew 22:37-39 






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6 responses to “It’s hard to hate up close

  1. This was a really good post, thank you for sharing. **hugs**

  2. Elizabeth

    I’m here from the link-up at The Cloisters. This is wonderfully written! A very creatively written reminder that we are called to love our neighbor…no matter what! This is so true, that once we really get to know someone, it becomes much more difficult to hate them instead of simply wanting to love and help them. Thank you for this.

  3. nmetzler

    Wonderful reminders. May we all love as Christ did. With everything, opening to the very least since we know that without Him we, ourselves, ARE the least.

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