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Weekly Intentions: Forgiveness

Traveling along, cruising at 8 miles over the speed limit. BAM!!!! Suddenly, I am jolted awake, out of my blissfully ignorant road trip.

My clean little upper room was rattled this weekend. Not in a bad way. But in a way that is requiring something of me. Release. Surrender. And then praying for something. Let me explain.

I attended a retreat for the Way of Life Coaching, LLC, leadership team. We usually have one to two retreats per year for personal development, spiritual growth, and overall team leadership development. It is a phenomenal time of community, friendship, growth, and love. Oh yeah, I usually take lots of walks on the beach and learn a whole lot, too. Doesn’t sound too shabby, huh?

The director of Way of Life Coaching, LLC, Cheryl Scanlan, discussed forgiveness at length this Saturday. And, I left a changed woman. She challenged us to search our hearts and ask God to show us who we may need to forgive. Most of the time this is pretty obvious. But for me, I had a major revelation this weekend. Here is the question that brought me to my knees:

Who can you NOT pray for and ask God to pour blessings on?

So as I ponder this week and work through my list of 8 people, I kindly request that you consider this question in your own lives. I want to be free indeed and that means being able to forgive and ask God to pour blessings upon these 8 people. They will never know who they are, but I know and God knows, and my friend, that is all that matters.

“Even as the angry vengeful thoughts boiled through me, I saw the sin of them. Jesus Christ had died for this man; was I going to ask for more? Lord Jesus, I prayed, forgive me and help me to forgive him….Jesus, I cannot forgive him. Give me your forgiveness….And so I discovered that it is not on our forgiveness any more than on our goodness that the world’s healing hinges, but on His. When He tells us to love our enemies, He gives along with the command, the love itself.”

Corrie Ten Boom – The Hiding Place



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It’s hard to hate up close

She had always thought of them as a little bit beneath her. She didn’t really hate them, just didn’t like them very much. Tried to stay away from them and avoided relationships with them. She would mumble things under her breath about them, hoping that no one heard her. And as long as she kept her distance, things were okay. She didn’t have to associate with them.

Until her daughter fell in love with one of them.

He thought they were nasty, sub-human. How could they possibly justify what they were doing? They knew what they were doing was wrong. Everybody knew it was wrong. He could never imagine anyone in his family actually choosing that lifestyle. And, he made sure he told them often. It was repugnant, repulsive, and utterly disgusting.

Until his son came out of the closet. 

She could not imagine what they felt like. They looked like fat slobs. They had to be exhausted from carrying around all that extra weight. Weak minded and lazy. All they had to do was eat healthy and work out. Pretty simple, fool-proof plan. She had absolutely no respect for fat people. They could change their lives if they wanted to. She would never get fat. And avoided fat people at all cost.

Until her husband gained 98 pounds in the three years since their wedding day.

Living off the system. Bottom feeders was his nickname for them. All they had to do was get a job and quit having babies. He thought everybody knows how to do that, right? It made him angry. Seething. He put in 60 hours a week for his family and his taxes were providing food stamps for them. Just not right. Completely unfair. He would never, ever use the system like that.

Until he lost his job and had no other way to feed his family.


It’s really, really hard to hate up close. Who do you hate? What barriers need to come down?


“But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.” I Corinthains 13:13


“And He said to him, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’  This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’” Matthew 22:37-39 





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Weekly Intentions: Saying Good-Bye

I was challenged to write for five minutes on the word ‘good-bye’ this past Friday. A very fun challenge that also got my wheels turning round and round. And, to be honest, they are still turning.

I used to believe that saying good-bye was a bad thing. Superstitious and fearful me made it feel like someone was dying if I let go of something or someone. I always wanted to be the peacemaker and make everything okay. Can you imagine what that did to my soul? Well, many things, but I will share a couple.

First, it hardened me. I would avoid new adventures or new relationships because honestly I knew they would end badly. And a bad good-bye might be involved. This encouraged small living because I would not venture into any unknown territory. What a pitiful way to live!

Next, it caused me to hang onto a whole lot of crap. Now, in our house, that is a ‘bad word’. So, I don’t use it lightly here. But, it is quite appropriate. If you never say good-bye because you are afraid of something that probably isn’t going to happen anyway, you end up with a lot of junk, literally and figuratively. 2011 was my year of shedding the material and emotional/mental/spiritual junk.

Now, I could go into a lot of details of what I mean by this, but I will save some of those stories for future blog material. Keep checking back! But as a result of God’s redemptive work in my life, I now know that not all good-byes are bad or painful. On the contrary, they can and have been life altering. For goodness sakes, they are GOOD-byes!!

You know what’s next. I am going to ‘get in your business’. What (or who) do you want to say good-bye to in your life? What (or who) is holding you back from being the person God is calling you to be?

What’s one thing that you can say good-bye to this week that will lighten your load and help you be more intentional about living the live God has called you to live?

I am beyond excited for you! Feel free to share by posting a comment or private messaging me.

GOOD-BYE for now! Stay tuned for the next Weekly Intention on next Sunday! 



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Yes, that is an interesting blog title. Got you guessing??

Pausing to listen to an airplane in the sky, stooping to watch a ladybug on a plant, sitting on a rock to watch the waves crash over the quayside—children have their own agendas and timescales. As they find out more about their world and their place in it; they work hard not to let adults hurry them. We need to hear their voices.

Cathy Nutbrown
Contemporary British educational theorist

God is wooing me to play. Yes, to play. And, He has given me two precious children to emulate. It brings me to tears and I am so excited about this revelation and resurrection. I have big, big plans for play in the near future. And the world will be my playground.

Yes, God. I heard you years ago. I am now choosing to listen. Like I never have before. 

There is for many a poverty of play.

D.W. Winnicott
British pediatrician

Won’t you come play with me? We have kingdoms to save, creations to build, pictures to paint, valleys to explore, and all kinds of excitement around every corner. I promise to take my (our! love you, baby!!) Canon 7D with me to capture some of the fun. Even if you can’t join me, I will share the playful adventures with you as I go and grow.

Stay tuned tomorrow when I share the next Weekly Intention. Until then, play on!

The opposite of play is not work. It’s depression.

Brian Sutton-Smith
Contemporary American folklorist



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Five Minute Friday: Good-Bye

I love Five Minute Friday! Here are the guidelines:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat on the prompt- no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. Meet & encourage someone who linked up before you.

OK, are you ready? Give us your best five minutes on:  Good-Bye

 And here is my five-minute Friday:

Afraid of the future. Paralyzed by her own vision of what might be. Handcuffed to pain and hiding from love.

She of all people knew what freedom would be like. She helped others on their own journeys of desire. But, she was tangled in a web of lies from the one who wanted her dead. She knew the Truth would set her free. Free from her self-designed matrix of living hell. And the key to her internal prison was in letting go.

Looking up instead of inward. Inward didn’t work. She tried. She became more tangled in that web of deceit.

When she became low, up was the only view she had. Then, it started. A painfully slow and overwhelming freeing metamorphosis.

Letting go of what is so that she could accept what could be. Trusting in Someone other than herself. Believing His Truth over the deafening and deadening lies.

As quietly as she arrived, she left. That fearful, dead, lonely shell of a woman. Now, she is free. She can fly! Free, indeed!

Sometimes good-bye is the best thing you can say.




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Weekly Intentions: Resurrection

“Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.”
Saint Augustine 
Today has been a beautiful day filled with family and celebration. Two of my favorite things. In addition to celebrating the holiday this weekend, I have pondered the word resurrection.


The word resurrection means:

  • The act of rising from the dead or returning to life.
  • The state of one who has returned to life.
  • The act of bringing back to practice, notice, or use; revival.
  • from Latin resurrēctus, past participle of resurgere, to rise again.

I honestly believe that most of us are walking dead. Breathing, but not living. Existing from one to do list to another. Paying the bills, but not fully living.

I also believe that the first step in learning to live fully is becoming aware of what your life could look like. If you don’t have any idea what you desire or want your life to look like, you will continue going through the motions. Breathing, but not living.

God has brought me back from the dead. Literally and figuratively. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me (Galatians 2:20). And, I want to be awake for all that He wants me to experience.

The act of living intentionally requires you to become aware of who you are and what you desire your life to be. A resurrection of sorts.

The intentional assignment this week is to ask God to show you what He wants to resurrect in your life. I know what He is wooing me to resurrect. I can’t wait to share it with you later this week.   

Are you ready to rise again? What is God reviving in your soul and spirit?

Be prepared for a life altering exchange. He came, and died, and rose from the dead so that we could live life to the full, in Him. If that doesn’t excite you, you may need to be resuscitated!!

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Not a big fan of easter…

Call me a party pooper, but I am not a big fan of easter. What does an easter bunny have in common with eggs? Last time I checked, bunnies don’t lay eggs.

I know, I know. Rigid you might be thinking, but give me a minute or two of your time.

I have always been a little unsettled about celebrating easter by way of chocolate, eggs, and bunnies. But, I shirked if off and got in line with everyone else. But, that unsettled feeling has never left. 

So, this year instead of ignoring it and getting in line, I jumped ship and started doing some research. And I am praying. A lot. 

I am still unsettled, but I am okay hanging out here because I know God will eventually lead me into truth regarding this traditional holiday.

Even though I am not a big fan of easter, one thing’s for sure, I am in love with Jesus who died for my sins and was raised from the dead so that I can live. That is worth celebrating!

In the mean time, I will continue seeking and searching for truth that will set me free from this unsettledness. I know He will set my feet upon a solid rock. 

He is risen!! Hallelujah!


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