Monthly Archives: November 2011

10 Things NOT to Say…

…to someone with gluten sensitivity or Celiac:

1. I am sure a little bit won’t hurt you…

2. But, it’s your birthday. You have to eat some cake…

3. But, it’s your child’s birthday… (finish this one using number 2 above)

4. You mean you really don’t eat your hamburger with a bun?

5. Soy sauce doesn’t have gluten!?

6. Maybe since you haven’t had gluten in so long, you could tolerate small amounts now and then…

7. Are you sure that has gluten in it?

8. Everybody is eating gluten free now…it must be some kind of fad or something…

9. We were going to ask you to go out to eat with us, but we knew you wouldn’t be able to eat anything…

10. Surely, gravy is gluten free…

It’s really simple, folks. Come from a place of curioisty and ask questions. Be sincere and sensitive to others needs. Don’t make assumptions and choose to remain ignorant.

“Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.” Benjamin Franklin

 

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Impact: The Ripple Effect

“She will never know the impact her 5 minute conversation had on my life.”

“I wish I could thank the person that paid for my lunch yesterday. I will never know who he is, but his impact on my life will last a lifetime.”

“She will never know what she really did for me. She made such a huge impact with such a little gesture.”

“I never knew that giving to someone else would feel so good to me. That really impacted me.”

Small gestures of kindness. Words of thanksgiving and praise. Gifts of love and sacrifice.

You may never know how much something you do or say will impact people who cross your path. For the better or worse. The comments in quotes are real…true impact moments.

Do you recall tossing pebbles into a pond as a young child? I still love to toss pebbles into a pond or lake. There is something mesmerizing about watching the ripples created by the small unassuming pebble. Small, yet full of impact.

What can you do tomorrow, however small, that will cause ripples?

You are leaving an impact or making ripples, whether you realize it or not. Start small, and you may be surprised at the tsunamis that can be created.

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Hidden Treasure

It comes in many shapes and sizes. Can be wrapped up in a box and topped with a sparkling red bow. Elicits great emotion. Can be found most anywhere, and can include most anyone.

What might you ask has this much capacity?

Treasure.

Ponder as you read this parable:

“A man was walking slowly through a field. As he was looking down at the dust he was making with each stride, he noticed something sticking up out of an earthen grave. He took his staff and poked at the corner of a wooden box. He stooped down, pausing first to look around to see if he had an audience. He got on his hands and knees and started digging with his hands. Within moments, he had made the discovery of a lifetime, hit the jackpot! Much to his surprise, he had discovered treasure that had been hidden in the field. He was so full of joy and excitement that he dug a hole, twice as deep as the original hole and hid the treasure again. He ran from the field with great anticipation. Within days, he gathered all that he owned, and sold it for a profit so that he could buy the field where he found and hid the treasure again. This treasure is like the Kingdom of Heaven.” (My lengthy paraphrase of Matthew 13:44)

Matthew 13:44 (NLT) “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure that a man discovered hidden in a field. In his excitement, he hid it again and sold everything he owned to get enough money to buy the field.”

What do you treasure? What or who do you value above anything or anyone else? Where you spend your resources (time, money, etc.) most often reveals what you treasure. Jesus tells us that wherever our treasure is, our heart or desire or passion will surely follow (Matthew 6:21).

Jesus treasures me and you, so much that He gave all. He followed his desires and passions straight to the cross. Just like the man in the field, who sold all so that he could buy the field and the treasure.

You, yes you, are a treasure to Him. How does it feel to be treasured?

When I walk in this truth, it feels amazing. When I listen to other things and certain people (which are often louder and very persistent), I feel like the red-headed stepchild. When this happens, I have to remind myself about who I am and where my value comes from. It does not come from my bank account, or the square footage of my house, or the number on the scale, or the brand of clothes my children wear, or from my friends, or from my job description or credentials.

I must choose to rest in the truth of who I am in Christ. I am a treasure to Him and so are you!

A great resource for learning more about your Identity in Christ, go to this link http://www.ficm.org/index.php?command=textwhoamiinchrist by Neil Anderson and Freedom in Christ Ministries.

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WW….but worth a thousand of them!

It is Wordless Wednesday, a term popular in the blogging community for wordless, but picture filled posts on Wednesdays. I only have two words for the following pictures: JOY UNSPEAKABLE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Shifting Shadows

My home office window faces due West, where the glorious sun waves goodbye to me each day as she continues Westward. On her way around the earth, she casts her spell on the mighty oak trees in my yard. Their golden and bronze leaves dance on my wall. As I sit in my office typing this post, they are dancing.

Mesmerizing, mysterious, almost spell binding.

Shifting shadows, dark and ambiguous.

Casting their spell on whomever lingers.

When I get mesmerized by the shadows of life, their friends are sure to follow: doubt, anxiety, fear, comparing, {fill in the blank}, etc.

Shadows in life are just that, shadows. They are not the real thing. They attempt to distract us from seeing clearly, from seeing the truth, the real image, not the shadow.

I think C.S.Lewis says it best in the book written about his love affair and marriage to Joy Davidman: Shadowlands: The True Story of C. S. Lewis and Joy Davidman: “Why love if losing hurts so much? I have no answers any more. Only the life I have lived. Twice in that life I’ve been given the choice: as a boy and as a man. The boy chose safety, the man chooses suffering. The pain now is part of the happiness then. That’s the deal.”

When you are in the shadowlands of life, there are no easy answers. If they do exist, please inbox me with them! Sometimes for me, the only answer is Truth. Sometimes I only need to sit still and trust Him and His promises. He has never lied to me, nor can He.

Instead of being misled and mesmerized by the shadows of this life, I can cling to Truth when all else is dark and full of shadows. The pain doesn’t go away, but I know I am not alone in my pain. And pain is often times what I need to make changes. Changes that heal and give life.

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” Hellen Keller

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Top Ten…

…new things we tried or revisited this week:

1. Callie and Sean both tried collard greens for the first time…let’s just say heaving was involved.

2. I started a new coaching blog! www.kairoscoaching.wordpress.com

3. Callie was tested for environmental allergies by an allergist. If we were looking for positive results, we found them, 17 of them. At least she is not allergic to us!

4. Canning beets. My mom canned them all the time when I was a kid. I learned from the best.

5. We now have a “word wall” in our house. For those who have kindergarteners and 1st graders, this will make sense. For those who don’t, imagine lots of multicolored post-it-notes with words written on them under the appropriate letter of the alphabet.

6. My Trans-Siberian Orchestra CD is now back in action. Nothing puts me in the Holiday spirit like listening to their version of “A Mad Russian’s Christmas”. It also makes for great running music! Take a listen for yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P9xxJ4V7no You must listen to the whole thing!! You will see what I mean.

7. I completed all the requirements for the Board Certified Coach certification. This was truly a God thing. It is deserving of a blog post of its own.

8. I faced a fear of mine. Too personal to mention, but grateful for God’s patience.

9. Anthony (THE perfectionist) designed and is building a shed in our backyard. I love helping him (THE perfectionist), even though I know when to walk away! It reminds me of when my parents remodeled our home when I was a kid and brings back some great memories.

10. I tried sushi, at my dear husband’s insistence. The taste was okay, but the texture was another issue. I will try it again in the future, but will bathe it in wasabi first!!

What new things have you tried this week? Or what things did you revisit this week?

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

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No regrets!!

“Cowardice asks the question – is it safe?
Expediency asks the question – is it politic?
Vanity asks the question – is it popular?
But conscience asks the question – is it right?
And there comes a time when one must take a position
that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular;
but one must take it because it is right.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

My nanny used to always say to me, “do the right thing”. Now, even as a child, I knew what she meant. Don’t do what will make you happy…unless it is the right thing. Don’t do what will make everyone else happy…unless it is the right thing. DO what makes God happy, and you will be happy in the long run. Don’t worry about everyone else. Their happiness is not my responsibility.

Lora Jane’s synopsis of the above was always “do the right thing”. Easy enough, right??

As a child, this was much easier than it has become as an adult. Decisions at 8 and 9 years old are a little more black and white than decisions at 35 and beyond. But, in the end, my nanny was right about doing the right thing. If my compass is due North (God), then my decision-making becomes much clearer. If my compass leans to the East or West (other people and pleasing them), then my clarity fades.

For me, my moral code is based on God’s Word. It is where I get my clarity. It helps me to make decisions for my life and my family. When I have a particularly difficult decision to make, I pray, ponder, and pour through the Word until I have peace that I have the right answer. Sometimes it is not black and white, but once I have inner peace that comes from God, I then make the right choice, which is not always easy.

Every decision we make has consequences, or it costs us something. Doing the wrong thing, costs you something. However, doing the right thing also costs us something. It may cost you one of your friends. It may cost you your job. It may cost you your life. Are you willing to pay the cost to do the right thing??

Here are some coaching questions that may help you “do the right” thing. My nanny would be very proud!

What or who prevents you from doing the right thing?

What is it costing you?

Are you willing to continue paying that price?

If not, what is the first baby step in the direction of the right thing?

What is your moral code based upon?

When was the last time you did the right thing and even though it was painful, you knew you did the right thing?

Keep pressing on journey mates. You will NEVER regret doing the right thing.

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