“Yesterday brought the beginning, tomorrow brings the end, but somewhere in the middle we’ve become best of friends.” (author unknown)
Friends. We all want them. Yet, friendships are something that you can’t make happen. You can’t force it. True friendships just don’t happen that way.
If you think about it, friends are a rare treasure and as the old saying goes, if you have one friend, you should consider yourself blessed. So then, how do friendships form? What is the magical formula that produces true friends?
I don’t think a magic formula exists. But, I do believe there are certain things that can create the opportunity for friendships to form. The first one would be propinquity or convenience. Examples of this would be school, jobs, church, etc. We make friends with those people who travel within our circles. The second way for friendships to form involves having similar interests. Think hobbies. And, I believe the most powerful medium for forming friendships is destiny.
I believe that in God’s sovereign plan, there are people we are destined to meet and become friends with. God may use one of the first two mediums to do so, propinquity or similar interests, but I firmly believe that there are certain people we will cross paths with and a rare treasure will be unearthed.
But the bottom line is quite simple. You attract what you exhibit…or said another way, if you want to make friends, you must show yourself friendly. To make a friend, you must be a friend. And genuine “friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity” (Kahil Gibran). People don’t want to be in relationships where they are used or taken advantage of. People want to be loved for who they are, not what they do. And the bottom line gets even simpler, love God with all your heart, soul, and mind, and love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:36-39).
Don’t enter into friendships seeking what you may gain. Enter into friendships seeking to love others and what you gain will be immeasurable!
“Friendship without self-interest is one of the rare and beautiful things in life.” James Francis Byrnes
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” Anais Nin