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I am one of those weird, eccentric, morbid, {insert your own adjective here} people who like to read the obituaries. I look forward to getting my Sunday N&O and turning to the “Triangle & State” section almost as much as I do my Sunday morning cup of coffee. I know it seems a bit foreign to some of you, but to the rest of you, this probably makes perfect sense. ( ;

While growing up, I always enjoyed reading the paper with my dad. We had some friendly competition when it came to who was going to read the Smithfield Herald first. I would read the obituaries as a child, too. Does that make me sound even more {insert your own adjective here}?

I have often wondered why I like to read the obituaries. I often cry when I read of someone whose time on this earth was all too short. I have also cried when I read about someone who truly seemed to live out their days on this earth. When I read someone’s obituary, I like to try to discover what made that person tick or what gave them purpose. That’s why I like to read obituaries. I know that someone’s obituary is a very short synopsis of his or her life. But, it is a window into who they were…how they chose to live out their lives. 

I am a curious person by nature and as a life coach, part of my job is helping clients to understand what makes them tick and unearth their purpose. I LOVE my job!! I desire to see people living their life and not just existing, watching the clock.

The title of my blog is Living Life. Have you lived today? Or have you merely existed? How do you know when you have lived life? What does that look like for you?

For me, it is being present or taking time to truly notice my surroundings. Listening to my husband and kids instead of just hearing them. Smelling the fresh-baked bread coming from Subway when I have to go to Wal-mart (see, that makes the trip a little better!). Watching the amazing and colorful array of birds that visit our bird feeder outside my kitchen window. Pausing to pray with my babies when someone we know has a need. Truly answering questions instead of placating or patting on the back. Going out of my way to make someone I care about feel special and loved. Listening to my Father during the day and asking Him what are you saying to me, instead of plowing through my day.

I encourage you to figure out what makes you tick, your purpose. Take one day this week and live your life. You may have decades to live your life…or you may have only a few days to do so.

Either way, when I read the obituaries next Sunday, I hope to read about people who lived out their God-given purpose. As we approach Easter, the celebration of our resurrected Redeemer, may you know and have peace that you will live again.



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Fine Tuning

You know those times in your life when you finally thought you got it…and then you realize you weren’t even close?? Well, I am learning that is what this dance called life is all about. Fine tuning.

I like things being done, complete, finisimo! I don’t like loose ends and things being undone. Those speed bumps slow me down!! But, that’s not the way life works. We are always in process and we are in need of constant fine tuning by our Master. I don’t like that!! It is work…hard work.

You know what I am talking about. We have all experienced things in life that we would rather not deal with. It would be easier to check out. Like when someone in your inner circle betrays you or when you keep bumping into the abuse you experienced as a child or when you finally get tired of being used by those who love you. Ring a bell? It is so much easier to ignore these things and cruise on. Trust me, they will find their way back to the surface of your life. Save yourself some time and pain. Deal with them!

Instead of tuning out when these things inevitably happen or resurface in life, I am learning to “tune in” to what’s happening for me. Instead of hitting the fast forward button so I can get to the good stuff, I am hanging out in the not so good stuff and doing some fine tuning. When the good stuff does come, it is my hope that I am fully present and can experience my life instead tuning out. Life is to be experienced, good and bad.  

So until I hear my final finisimo from my Master, I will continue to learn and process and fine tune. I pray that I am patient and give myself some grace along the way. Thank you for traveling with me along the journey. By the way, I am honored to be on Jory Fisher’s radio talk show tomorrow at noon. Here is the link:

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